How to deal with anxiety or depression

How to deal with anxiety or depression :self help with anxiety and depression

Many suffer from depression and loneliness. There is no easy answer to overcome it. One answer is to pray and get closer to God. Ten million people in US suffer from depression. They also suffer from Anxiety disorder.


There are many symptoms of depression.You will have trouble sleeping in the night. You will think of all the troubles you are facing. Some of you are unemployed. And behind in mortgage for more than two months. And over the limit on credit cards. Bank and other creditors are harassing you with early morning collections calls.

You wake up in the morning to have breakfast but have lost appetite. You end up losing weight. Sometimes, your appetite might increase and you will end up gaining more weight.

You do not feel like going to the gym anymore. The result is you start gaining more and more weight. Suddenly you become undesirable to your husband, boyfriend, girl friend and people around you.


Some plan their death or suicide. They plan how to kill them self.Things like jumping off of a bridge or in front of a train, worse driving the wrong way on the highway.

What do you do ?

Pray. Yes, you need to pray. Day and night. And read the scriptures.

And meditate on them.

Psalm 42:11

” Why are you cast down, O my soul and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation and my God “

Another reason for loneliness and depression is some isolate themselves from social activities. This should not be so. The more you isolate yourself, more depressed you will be.

Join a bible study group, a gym and go out in the evening to a movie with a friend, And if you have trouble finding a friend, search the internet through dating services like, e-harmony and many other similar services.

Enroll yourself at the local college. Learn a new trade. Get qualified, look for a new more rewarding carrier.

Isaiah 41:10

“‚Ķfear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand “

While you try to do all these things, know that your God is watching your progress. He will strengthen you when weak. He will guide through the process as you try to rehabilitate yourself. Know that your God will uphold you with his hand.

Travel overseas. Visit the Caribbean. Go swim in the sea. Look for wildlife sanctuaries. Spend time on the beach.

When you travel, you will see places which are so different to your home country. And the people and their culture will amaze you. These will get your mind off all the trouble you face at home.

Talk to other passengers in the cruise. Be friendly. Make an effort to start a conversation with fellow passengers. Socialize with them.

I have a friend who visits his home country India once in two years. He says he does that to get away from the busy life at home in Canada. He has many personal problems. His father is old and feeble. Mother sick with a deadly disease. Many

problems at work place. Children drug addicts. He has no peace Unable to cope with all these, his only solace is the trip back to his home country every two years.


Learn a new game of sports. Play Tennis or Table tennis. Go watch a ball game. If unable to go out, invite some friends and watch the game at home with them. Never isolate yourself.

Have a party at home. Entertain your guests with karaoke. Have a good conversation with them. And when they invite you to their homes, be friendly.

I personally developed depression and loneliness in my life. Especially when I was abroad. I was working for an airline in the middle east. It was first time away from my family on my own.

This country had no social life. It was just starting to develop especially just after discovering two oil wells. The new sultan who took over from his father was on a fast phase development project for his country. The rumor was he killed his old father just to grab power. And he was a graduate of prestigious Cambridge University in England.Since he was British educated he wanted to open his country to the west.

There were few hotels in the city. Some had nightlife but most were restricted to foreigners. I used to work out at the gym in one of the hotels. I met some locals there. But I had difficulty in communicating with them since most of them could not speak in English but only in Swahili.

I spent only a year and quit since the loneliness was too much to bear. I do not recommend anyone to work there as the loneliness was unbearable.

Fortunately for me I received a scholarship from a US university and was able to fly to USA within few weeks of quitting my job.

Making decisions-

Sometimes, you will find difficult to concentrate at work or studies. Unable to make decisions. Sometimes unable to think clearly. You get agitated easily. Gets involved in fights, arguments with the neighbor. All these are signs of depression or anxiety.

Some even commit even murder. The only way to protect yourself from these things is by praying daily, attending church and having fellowship with church members.

Satan is behind all the calamity in the world. He creates depression, loneliness and make people behave badly. If you look at all the murderers, rapists who roam the streets and kill so many, you will learn that all those suffer from depression and loneliness.

While the society has to bear part of the responsibility, it is their parents who should hold the brunt of it. If they brought their children up properly this would not have happened.

What happens is that from their childhood, many children have been neglected. And it results in they being grown up to be undesirable elements in the society.

They end up spending most of their lifetime in jail. This is quite unfortunate. And it is unnecessary. Only we could handle them is by rehabilitate them. However, these things can be prevented if from early childhood parents do not neglect their children. It is essential they show love, kindness to them when they are young. If you try to control them, they are sure to go astray.

Try listen to them. Do not punish rather guide them. Advise them. As I see in some instances the kids become more aggressive when punished. Time out does work sometimes but not all the time.

Spend quality time with kids. Do not neglect them. Help them with their studies. Help them get involved in sports when young.

I started playing Tennis at the age of nine. And I ended up playing tennis at college. Since my father encouraged me to play sports at a younger age I became a champion. And your kid can too. You just need to spend more time with them.

The more time you spend with your kids will benefit them in the long run. They would be grateful to you when they grow up.


Depression make people unable sleep, unable to eat. Think of suicide. The way out is to socialize. Attend church, pray. Get involved in sports activities. Spend more time with the family.invite friends home. Live in peace with everyone.

I have listed some scriptures below for you to read and meditate on.

Psalm 40:1-3

“I waited patiently for the Lord; he inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog,
and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God “

Psalm 3:3

” But you, O Lord, are a shield about me, my glory, and the lifter of my head “

Psalm 34:18-19

“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all

Isaiah 40:31

“but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint”

Matthew 11:28-30

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light”

Psalm 34:17

” When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles”




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9 thoughts on “How to deal with anxiety or depression

  1. Depression can be dangerous and suicidal, yes. It is very important to be positive minded but at times, it can be really difficult to manage. The negative thoughts that run through our mind can be destructive. Always be mindful to bring ourselves back into the light. One thing I have learned from my little ordeal is to surround myself with positive minded people. Yes, I stayed away from my friends who drawn the positive energy from me and gave me the negative. 

    1. Thanks Sharon.Yes I agree with you on being surrounded with positive minded people. The Bible is a positive message of hope. And prayer is an effective weapon in overcoming depression.

  2. Yes I agree with you depression can be life threatening and if not treated it will cost us dear in more ways than one.The best thing is always to find someone to talk to. Do not let anger eat you from inside. Speak out  and you shall always be having a fighting chance.But the most important of them all is always putting God first having Faith in him for HE will be your guide in times like those  for sure you will always be a winner.

  3. Hi Saj Kar, Nice post, Though I have no experience of being depressed or know someone who is depressed. Your posts gives out a lot of stuff to help them. but it’s very generic instead on specific. Would recommend giving out more specific information like meditation, yoga and so on, It’s a very vast topic & it’s equally complicated. Overall the post is really well written & will for sure help someone out in whatever way possible. 

  4. What a powerful article you have here. Depression really can take a person to ways that she or he can not overcome on their own. Only God can take someone from the dark and bring back to the light. Many people that I know, want some help, but they do not know how to ask someone for help.

    Attending church, I think still is the best way to overcome this disease, yes, because this is a disease that can drive a person to death. Go to church, getting closer to God, can make a huge difference in peoples lives. Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life… So God can free a person from the depression, can give the comfort and satisfaction that people need.

    I was in depression after my stroke in 2017, but I decide to foster kids and this makes me stop thinking about my own problems and think about the kid’s problem so I became free and clear of my deep depression thank to the Lord.

    Thank you for such a good and inspirational post, may God bless you,


  5. Great post and good info.

    This is very actual for me since my wife is depressed. Her family is a long way from home and she feels alone, even with me there. 

    I do everything what I can, and it helps a bit, but it still is hard. I will share this post with her and hope she regains her inner strength. 

    A depression can be very dangerous indeed, and you have to try to solve it as fast as possible because it costs many lives each year. 

    Thanks for sharing it! 

    1. Thank you for your comments..I understand your wife’s situation. The solution would be to help her communicate with her family as much she can. Also help her communicate through whats-up app, or even through Skype with her folks at home. God bless.

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