Christian marriage and romance : Love, Marriage and Divorce
Every relationship begins with an unexpected meeting, a connection between complete strangers or even through a close relative. The ideal relationship would be among Christians themselves.
In the beginning-
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth”
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
And it is important to have children to carry on. As in,
Genesis 9:7 God said,
” Now be fruitful and multiply, and repopulate the earth.”
There will be an outbreak of deadly disease like Cholera, Ebola and others’ that could destroy most of the population.
Therefore, I believe it is the duty of all men and women to have at least two children during their marriage.
1 Corinthians 13:4-5
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others’, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.”
It does not matter how many times your spouse hurt you, ridiculed you in public, you must still love her. But at the same time you must lead, and let her know that according to the scriptures you are the head of the house. I know many women do not like to hear it. But if you want to be a true Christian you need to accept it. This scripture is a guideline to follow in general for any relationship.
Head of the house does not mean you are allowed to dominate your wife. And certainly not assault her. You must never touch her. Jesus said “your bodies belong to each other” Then how can you hurt your own body by physically assault your own wife. No way. If you have issues that can not be resolved, it is better to get a certificate of divorce. This was permitted starting from the times of Moses.
1 Corinthians 7:1-40
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Sometimes, due to neglect the husband starts a gay relationship with a friend or co-worker. This can destroy the marriage. Some get entangled with an online relationship on Facebook, dating sites.
It is a tragedy as this is a result of neglect by one towards the other.
Husbands and wives must set aside a time when they could spend quality time with each other. Need to take time off from work and go on a holiday. And it is also important to keep away from children and spend some time alone enjoying each other’s company.
A love story:
John and Mary met each other at a church function in Tulsa, Oklahoma. They fell in love at first sight. They dated for a while and decided that it was time to tie the knot a couple of years later. They traveled the world. First to Paris, then to Italy, Spain. They loved traveling. They even visited many other countries like Sweden, Germany, Switzerland, Australia and New Zealand.
John was a computer analyst. And Mary a hospital technician.
They went on expensive cruises to the Caribbean. Spent hours gambling, at Las Vegas. And they went bungee jumping. Loved wild life.
Eventually they decided to settle down in Auckland, New Zealand. They loved the New Zealand people who were very friendly. They loved watching rugby. Played tennis daily.
They had three children. And the pressure of raising children affected Mary. John started drinking. And eventually he became a drunkard. And started extra marital affairs.
Mary started drinking as well. Started to take prescription pain killers.
As things got worse, they decided to part ways. They decided to get a divorce and split the assets in half.
***This is a typical story on how a loving relationship that started with great promise eventually ended up in divorce.
It is essential that you do your best to keep your marriage intact. Divorce is easy to get. But the consequences are huge. The children suffer the most.
The children of divorced parents suffer greatly. They go through phases of depression, which is hard to cure.
It was not like this in the beginning of mankind.
” Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Unfortunately, there are many in our society, when they see a loving couple, try break them apart.These people are unhappy with their own marriage and try destroy others. God will punish them severely.
“Jesus replied, “Moses permitted divorce only as a concession to your hard hearts, but it was not what God had originally intended.”
Today divorce is rampant. For every small reason people get divorced. And since some take advantage of a divorce many signs a prenuptial agreement before they get married.
This has resulted in decline in marriages, especially in North America and Europe. And an increase in gay relationships.The tragedy is decline in birth rate which is not good sign.
One must ensure before they get married that both are compatible with each other. There is no need to rush into a marriage and only end up in a divorce.
2 Corinthians 6:14
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? “
They fell in love and got married. Soon after, the wife started influencing the husband with Buddhist laws according to Buddhism. Unfortunately, their children also became Buddhists. And the wife gradually influenced the husband to attend the Buddhist temple. This resulted in the husband slowly getting influenced so much that he stopped attending church.
The children were stopped from attending church which was a tragedy.
It is said that “our god is a jealous God” He needs full devotion to him.
“Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God.”
1 Corinthians 7:15
“But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace”
Every human being after they grow up under their parents will leave them and start a married life. This was the intention of God when he created Adam and Eve. They fall in love and get married and have children. In time their marriage will be tested. A divorce will be quick fix but must strive to avoid it for the sake of children. You need to be able to be extremely patient and loving and at no time you should ever hurt your wife physically.
If you marry a non-believer and she or he creates difficulty in marriage it is better to separate. It is imperative that you serve Jesus only and not worship other Gods our God is a jealous God.